Every year around the holidays, I think it’s important to remind ourselves that it’s ok to be a little selfish. This is a difficult time of year for many, so sometimes you have to give yourself permission to take care of YOU first. I think this blog, which I originally posted a few years ago, is a great reminder.
If you get one more holiday card in the mail with pictures of cute families, you might scream! I know, I’ve been there. If you need to throw them away this year instead of displaying them on your fridge, you have my permission.
The holidays are among us, a difficult time for many. While holidays are usually a time to rejoice and enjoy time together with friends and family, if you have been struggling with infertility or waiting to adopt, this can be an extremely isolating and painful time of year.
First and foremost, take care of yourself this year. BE SELFISH! It’s ok!
So, what exactly does that mean?
If you have been invited to a family gathering where your pregnant cousin Jill or your aunt, who will certainly ask when you’re going to have a baby already, will be there, you may want to take a pass this year. Give yourself permission. It’s better than accidentally flipping your aunt off at the Christmas buffet.
Make up an excuse, like, “uh…I’m so sorry, but I think I’m coming down with something and it wouldn’t be right for me to be there.” See, simple!
Instead, do something that will make you feel good – heck, it just might be a perfect time for that massage!
But, if you do go, a good practice is to set an intention for yourself beforehand. For instance, “I intend to go to this party with an open heart and not let anyone or anything stand in the way of my having a great time.” Sounds corny, but try it. It really makes a difference.
Religious services can also be challenging, surrounded by many families. But if you really want to go, then you should go! Again, set an intention and figure out what you can do to feel nourished. Walk in with your head held high and a smile on your face and sing your heart out. After all, this is a great place to be asking for exactly what you want. Who knows, somebody may just answer your prayers!
However you tackle the holidays, I hope they bring you peace, joy and happiness!
…and hoping that all your dreams come true!