In sharing my adoption story, I hope to connect with you as you embark on this journey to becoming a parent. I was 41 years old, single, and Jewish when I began the adoption process, which were three strikes against me. Right off the bat! I was told that these things, which were fundamental to who I was, would not be “favorable” or would make it more difficult for me to adopt. Ultimately, I did not let that stop me and I now am a mother to a beautiful 7 year-old boy.
So let’s talk about how I got to be where I am now. I was single and still am (just putting that out there). I wanted more than anything in the world to be a mom. At first I thought I would give fertility treatments a try, but fast forward to a couple of years, 26 unsuccessful IUIs, and a whole lot of tears, and I still wasn’t a mom. Through my journey with infertility, I finally figured it out. It’s what I couldn’t quite put my finger for years: adoption. It was like a load of bricks was lifted off my shoulders.
I was always meant to adopt, and when I really decided to take on this road to motherhood, I needed an easy button. After everything I had been through, I just wanted and desperately needed someone to tell me what to do and how to do it. I needed someone to just hold my hand. Through networking and researching, I discovered that an adoption consultant could do just that for me. I decided to send a lot of money to someone in a different state. I decided to risk everything, but my instincts were telling me it would all pay off.
Exactly nine months later, I was in Utah and holding my son in my arms. I was so clear after the process I had been through that nobody should go through the adoption process alone. There is just so much you don’t know you don’t know.
From the home study process to designing a profile book to selecting the right agencies to work with, I realized that everyone needs a professional to guide them through the trenches of this journey. Everyone needs someone to be there when things go awry, someone to talk things through with, and someone to be a guide, expert, cheerleader, and friend through this difficult process.
Working with an adoption consultant was difficult for me. I am such a Type A person that letting go and letting someone else lead was not a small feat, but it was the best decision I ever made in my life.
After talking to people about adoption for 2 years (yes, you become a magnet once you adopt), I thought, I am not sick of this conversation yet. I took a leap, started RG Adoption Consulting, and haven’t looked back since. If you know your purpose is to be a parent, I know my purpose to help you get there.