During National Adoption Awareness Month, we will introduce you to numerous guests, highlighting many parts of the adoption journey. Today we are highlighting a poem written by Rachel Forbes, therapist and Korean American adoptee. She shares resources for adoptees on her Instagram page. Rachel’s poem, “What do I want you to know?” brings out her personal emotions and feelings surrounding her experience as an adoptee.
By Rachel Forbes
What do I want you to know?
I want you not only to know about the times
that were clearly and expectedly confusing and heartbreaking,
but also about the moments that lived and live in silence
The moments during which
there were no words, no shared
or taught language.
The slight, and glossed in pity ~or love~,
glances and clichés that were assuming or spoken
at the super market
in the waiting room
at a stoplight
or while standing in a room with no one who looks like me
or sees me.
The simultaneous distance and yearning
when you’re betwixt and between,
a l w a y s .
The constant flow of curiosities
that feel like secrets, even when I’m told they’re not.
But they show up in moments that are intimate,
sacred, and just between me and her.
I want you to know that I carry them.
And those who also experience them carry them too.
I also just want you to listen with love.
And that’s it.
Rachel is a Korean American transracial adoptee and Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a private psychotherapy practice based in Connecticut. Utilizing mind/body and holistic therapeutic approaches, she specializes in attachment trauma and adoption, helping individual clients strengthen their connection with their inner worlds and self-leadership. Rachel also speaks publicly about the adoptee experience, offers trainings for professionals, and hosts and facilitates support groups for adult adoptees. Check out her website here and more information on her adoptee group here.