You’ve Got Questions. I’ve Got Answers.
0:30 Will I get chosen if I am single? If I am gay? If we already have children? If we are over 40?
The answer is, “Yes! Yes! Yes! and Yes!”
It doesn’t matter about your age, marital status, sexual preference, or otherwise. What matters is a connection with the expectant mother.
Through my proven model I will help you to put together a profile, a storybook of your life, that best represents you in the most authentic way while resonating with an expectant mother. It only takes one connection! The right one.
1:17 How long does the adoption process take?
This is one of the most commonly asked questions and yet one of the most difficult to answer because there are so many factors involved. First, it’s a double match situation. You are choosing the right situation for you and an expectant mother is choosing the right parents for her child.
What situations you are open to makes a big difference! This includes medical, mental health, substance, and social history. How well you connect with an expectant mother through your adoption profile and it depends on updated statistics from the agency or agencies you are working with.
My expectation in working with you is that we will put together an awesome profile using my proven model and that you will be working with agencies that are the right fit for you and your family. With that in mind, I hope you will be able to adopt your baby in less than a year.
2:28 How do I find the right agency?
Finding the right agency or agencies can be overwhelming for sure. A larger agency, who has been in operations for years and does many placements, is your best bet. But that’s not enough, you also want to know statistics, like how many other families are waiting with the same criteria you have. What are their financial policies or their financial risks? There is so much involved!
This is where RG Adoption consulting can be extremely helpful. Our model is to use multiple agencies at once for quicker matches and the right agencies for the safest match. We have a large network of agencies across the country that I have personally vetted and I will put together a customized list of agencies specifically that meet your needs for the best possible match.
3:32 My biggest concern is getting a healthy baby. Is that possible?
Absolutely. It’s not only possible, but I recently read a statistic that over 80% of adopted children are healthy. When you are presented a situation, you are given a lot of information about an expectant mother such as her health, mental health, whether or not there is any substance abuse, so that you are able to make the most informed decision you can for you and your family.
4:08 Open adoption scares me! What does it mean? And what if the birth mother changes her mind?
First, understand that a birth mother doesn’t make an adoption plan for her baby because she wants to parent down the road. She knows exactly what she’s doing, which doesn’t make it any easier for her. She wants to know that her baby is thriving and that she made the right decision by choosing you to parent her child. The word open is a trigger for a lot of people, so you are definitely not alone. Openness in adoption can range from sending pictures and letters through your agency without any identifying information to texting or phone calls with your birth mother, or it could even mean visits if that’s what you are comfortable with. That conversation starts before your baby is born and it evolves over time.
5:10 How much will adoption cost me and how will I ever afford it?
On average, you can expect your expenses for domestic agency adoption to cost roughly thirty to forty-five thousand dollars. Now, most likely you won’t need all that money up front. However, once you apply to your agencies you want to have easy access to that money because you just never know how quickly a situation will present itself. Now, this can be the biggest hurdle for many people when it comes to adoption. How are they going to come up with all that money? There are grants available for you to apply to, but besides that people have gotten really creative with fundraisers, even crowdsourcing, or asking for family loans. If this is a concern for you, please don’t forget to ask me during our first session together and I’ll send you some resources!
6:05 Where do I even begin? What's my first step?
First, if you’ve already made your decision to start your adoption journey. Congratulations! That’s a huge first step, so now what? It’s easy! Just give me a call or shoot me an email. I’ll send you a few questions to answer, some paperwork to sign, and we will get started! As your trusted advisor, I will hold your hand through every module of my Adoption Roadmap℠ and soon you will be on your way to bringing home your baby!
